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The idea to write

Posted on February 21, 2015 at 1:40 PM Comments comments ()
The idea that I could write
This was a clear thought that I had about ten years ago. I wanted to write children’s books. My job at the time was working with children protective services and often would need to transport children under the age of ten into the children’s advocacy center to be videotaped telling their stories of abuse. At times I would hear the children in the other room with the officers crying or the officers would report that the children were nonresponsive to the questions about the abuse they had faced before leaving the home and being placed into a shelter or foster home. The job was very emotionally stressful but the willingness to make sure that the children would stay comfortable during such a session was my main focus. Conversations before arrival to the advocacy center would consist of speaking to the children about some of the most happy and memorable things from childhood. Mostly my childhood which they couldn’t believe that I was a child and would laugh at my stories as if they had comic books. I wanted to make each child comfortable in a very difficult situation each of them had experienced so much at this point. I wanted to make them forget the bad memories and begin making new happy memories.
Why writing wasn’t pursued ten years ago? The job at the state of texas became more and more demanding for a single mother with two teenage sons. I worked ten to twelve hours a day. I traveled from city to city picking up children to bring them into the office for court ordered weekly visitation with their biological parents that were charged with abuse and or neglect. Once I meet the children they have already been removed from their bio homes and are placed into shelters in the same city or up to 75 miles away from their homes. My job was to bring the children in for visitation and record all events from the time the child was in my care until I returned the children back to the shelter or a foster care home. I would write about the childs mood upon pick up some of them were removed from school to attend the visits, some of them were in alternative care such as homes that only have either boys or girls. They are usually ranches located in small towns outside of the city. Children that are called runners usually are placed here for their own safety and protection. With my children and the extra hours at work my writing children’s books got placed on the back burner. I did submit a sample to a publishing house as a part of writing contest. They liked it and wanted me to submit more but time was not on my side. My next steps I wanted to share some interesting stories from my time at children and protective services to see if some of my experiences would benefit families that have faced some similarities. Sometimes if you know someone has an encouraging word about a difficult time then those words can make all the difference in how you proceed with your own situation. I want to inspire people to help themselves and never give up trying to find what works for you. If you scared of what my be next I want to show you that there is a way to approach the things that you may have difficulty dealing with. My stories for children would show how to explain abusive situations by presenting through visual and learning techniques. I want to write and illustrate the different people in a child’s life that could potentially be a predator but parents don’t see this person as a predator only the victim of abuse can understand how someone as friendly as the basketball coach, or the babysitter can be a predator to your child. Some adults are victims of abuse as well but have spent years hiding it or covering up for the predator because they fell that is the only way they know how to deal with the abuse. This happens when there has been abuse for generations, abuse from one generation to the next was something I witnessed working with Children and protective services for over a decade I witnessed grandmother’s, mother’s, daughters and children that had been through the foster care system. The same patterns that were around over thirty years ago still plague some families. The cycle continues because there hasn’t been anyone there that could get through to the members in the cycle. Most family feel that outside help like children and protective services are there to make your life worse, the services are provided to help the families with additional resources to take better care of his or her family. The people that take the advice and follow the family plans provided to them will not reenter the system. The families survive and the children learn how to more independent in their own lives. How to become a freelance blogger? When I started looking into getting paid to write my stories, I came across a lot of interesting material the one that really caught my eye with her honesty and the way she gave it to me straight was Carol Tice. I asked her a question she answered and I am intrigued by all she has to offer. The webinar’s with Linda Formecelli were so informative. How to get started from Sophie Lizard is my next step. I’m anxiously awaiting her 28 day class on how to become a freelance blogger. This information will be the most helpful in developing the stories that I want to tell and capturing the audience that I want to read the stories. The market for writing stories about how to help victims of abuse is endless if your writing something that helps the person that needs it. Writing about abuse isn’t someone’s first choice of books to read if they have never experienced abuse or known any one that has been through one of the many forms of abuse. I want to help those that have experienced abuse and if you know or love someone that has experienced abuse you may want to read some of my articles they may help. A few topics I would like to talk about with references for those experiencing any of these circumstances: How do you get your child to talk to a cop or therapist about abuse? How does a woman of abuse allow anyone else to get close to her? How do men cope with abuse? Are there warning signs that someone you care about is being abused? What if your new husband is abusing your children? How to talk to your children about adults taking advantage them?